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Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Feeling less than Fabulous

It's been weeks since I shared a What I Wore Wednesday post.
I got dressed every day. In fact, most days I even put on some pretty cute clothes.
Unfortunately, I also put on a few pounds. More than a few, quite actually.
It's tough to share fashion inspiration when you aren't happy in your own skin.
I've always envied women who are totally content in their own skin regardless of body type or shape.
No matter my size, I've always struggled with positive self image.
In college I was a size 4 and everything was eh, hem- perky...I remember complaining about the amount of 'fat' hanging over the top of my jeans. Looking back, I'm pretty sure that was skin- there was so little fat on my body!
Now, I see someone wearing a top, or dress, or pair of shorts I have in my closet and think "Why doesn't it look like that on ME?"
The nice big reality slap in the face came last week when I saw so many of my friends posting photos on Instagram and Twitter of their new, cute mint skinny crop pants. I saw them on clearance at my Target, tried them on and nearly cried. I would have cried if the kids were not with me. I couldn't button them- not even a size larger than I usually wear, and oh the thighs. Let's just say, it was NOT pretty. Dimply comes to mind. Dimples belong on cheeks...on faces...not on thighs.
So, so sad.
My personal focus has changed. It's time to take back my health and my body.
In the meantime, I'm being brave.
I'm posting.

Sunday-church
I chose a coral flowy top with flowy white linen pants. After looking at the photos Breadwinner took, I realized it was NOT a good choice.
Most of the photos I look pregnant- or 30 lbs heavier. Dressing for your body is so important.
I don't know how to dress this body. I try to mask it-and it makes me look bigger.
coral rosette front top, white linen pants, gray flower sandals- NY&Co, brown cropped jacket-Ann Taylor Loft
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My new favorite accessory is my initial necklace from Canela at Cinnamon Sticks. She brought a monogram necklace to each lady in attendance at the Fairly Fab Crafting Party.
Thanks to a birthday gift from another Fairly Fab Party attendee, I have painted toenails! AND they match my top! (Hazard from Sinful Colors at Target)
And then there's Kristen, my sweet friend! Happy Birthday to ME- a brand new HANDMADE, leather, chevron clutch. Yes- handmade! Yes- real genuine leather. Yes-Chevron. And oh does she have some tricks up her sleeve! I SO wish I could go shop The Queen Bee Market this weekend to see more of her new creations!

Tuesday-Catching up at home- my one kid free morning a week...until Summer starts in two weeks (pray for my sanity....theirs, too!)
It was a relaxing day.
Stacy Lynn jersey dress, belt, leggings-Target, same fluffy sandals
My favorite necklace from Eclectic Elegance.
Linking up with Lindsey and Nina this week.

Do you struggle with body image? It's not fun. It's toxic. What do you do to combat those feelings?

On a happy note- Did you hear about the Swag Giveaway Extravaganza?! A new giveaway announced each day this week from the #FairlyFabParty sponsors. Don't forget to enter! 

30 comments:

Alissa Circle said...

First of all, I only wish I could look as cute as you in white pants. Tried them on and ugh... thunder thighs is an understatement and don't even get me started on your adorable outfit with leggings. Can't do those either. But you look ultra fab and totes cute!!!

Cyndi@Walking in Grace and Beauty said...

Hi Megan!
I hopped over from the pleated poppy and I'm glad i did!
You look adorable! Believe me, we all struggle with our body image. Being 45 and seeing lines and wrinkles is a struggle but I remind myself all the time that true beauty comes from the inside.
Let His light shine!
Blessings and have a great day,
Cyndi

Daryl said...

I'm visiting from the pleated poppy! I think you look fabulous, but I totally understand what you mean about being uncomfortable in your skin regardless. Even when I'm at my thinnest I'm wishing I could be skinnier? And why? Who am I trying to impress, really?

You are beautiful.

Greets from Germany!
<3 Daryl
Roots, Wings & Other Things.

AshleaD said...

As women, we need to let go of that size we were in high school. I thought I was so chubby back then, but now, a good 30 lbs heavier, I know I am chubby! haha But, oddly enough, I am more confident than I was back then. Don't torture yourself with Target pants either. I know those mint skinnies you are talking about and they are evil. Their pants are not made for women. Be proud to be a woman! We shouldn't fit in little girl clothing anymore! Trust me, I had a minor meltdown the day I discovered I no longer had a "junior" sized butt - but its OK now. Its OK to struggle and set new goals for yourself! Besides darling, you look wonderful just the way you are!

Style Mentor™ said...

Now that I am pushin 50, I don't obsess about my body anymore. It was terrible when I was young though, probably the worse when I was a late teen. Over the decades it settles down, and you are just happy to be alive, no matter what you look like! :-) Nice to meet you, I found you on Pleated Poppy. :-)

HIS daughter said...

Thank you for this...I just had a baby boy a month and a half ago and it was very shocking to me the change in my body. I am nursing and people keep telling me it will melt off but I needed to do something in the meantime.
So for me it was a few shopping trips were I just cried afterwards! Nothing fit. But then I started to realize what fit my new body. What things flattered and what didn't and through trial and error finally found what my style is as I continue to lose my baby weight.

and also-uh yeah you are adorable! Truly :) These outfits are so cute!!!! :)

beki said...

Oh goodness yes, I struggle! I recently started doing WIW to get used to seeing my now-larger-after-having-baby-#4 body.
I think you look adorable and I LOVE that necklace ;-)

The Every Day Extraordinary said...

You look great! Love the cute new hair and you make the effort to dress this body that works: ) I admire your sense of style: )

cate @ wild ruffle said...

First of all - I'm loving that belted dress with the fun necklace! I think you look fabulous in it.

My weight has fluctuated over the years, and believe me, I took drastic measures at a certain point to try to combat it. I get that battle. But I really do think you look great!:)

Taraleigh said...

Don't feel bad about the mint jeans. I bought a few colored jeans from target a month or two ago, and believe me, the sizing on the darn things is WAY off. I usually wear a 4 and I had to buy the jeans in a size 11! The waist is a little big on me, but the thighs are really snug. I liked then enough though, and didn't care what the tag said. Give yourself some credit! Your body has made babies! Things tend to move and change when that happens. :)

Mandy said...

I found you through the pleated poppy too! You look great in all of these outfits....definetly not pregnant in any of them! It is tough...especially after having kids...to ever see your body the same way! I am pregnant with #4....so i am feeling your pain in the body image department! But, God made us special and, as women, we can totally dress up and accessorize to detract from the not so positives! Gotta love that~!

Brook said...

You are darling and look really cute. I love that necklace, too! I'm a new follower via WWIW. Glad I found your blog.

Carrin said...

I struggle every single day! I used to be really tiny & eat whatever I wanted & now those days are definitely catching up with me!
I love both outfits but I have to say the leggings was my fave. So cute & comfy!

Nicole said...

Love that stacy lynn dress on you! How can I get a hold of that necklace in the last picture? Love it!!

Katie said...

Oh. My. Goodness.

That dress.

Is SO ADORABLE on you.

Maybe a lot of a healthy body image is learning to be comfortable in our own skin, to stop with the (self-) fat-shaming and etc.

But you're right--it helps to dress to your advantage, and trying to mask your extra pounds just makes you look bigger. You look like you weight thirty pounds less in the dress picture than the pants one.

But, honestly, the pants outfit looks good, too! You look--adult. Not skinny-mini-easy-breezy teenager or college girl, but grown up, polished. I don't know. I like them both. But especially the dress. ^_^

Anonymous said...

I absolutely LOVE the brown, coral and white together! That is a beautiful outfit combination! You have inspired me to go out and shop for an outfit like yours! :)
-Elisabeth

Renewed Upon a Dream said...

Oh my gee you are so pretty! I love your hair! That dress looks great, love it with the belt.

Amanda said...

I'm actually pretty comfortable in my own skin. I was very heavy in high school, so now, even though I'm 20 pounds heavier than I want to be, I'm still quite a bit smaller than I was 15 years ago.

And one thing I've noticed: people are always harder on themselves about how they look. So I try and keep that in mind...the truth is, *nobody* cares if I am 10 or 15 pounds overweight. So I try not to worry over it.

Your outfits are SUPER cute! I love the coral + chocolate combo!

Anonymous said...

What other color besides coral do you think would look good with the brown jacket and white pants????
-Elisabeth

Meagan At Fairly Fabulous said...

Elisabeth- I'm not sure how to get in touch with you, so I will leave my comment here. I think the coral and brown would look good with trouser jeans or even pressed khakis, too. I don't know about another 'color', but I'd go with one of those. Are you putting together an outfit? I want to see! Do you have a blog?

Anonymous said...

Okay! Thanks alot for the ideas! No I do not have a blog, I just enjoy finding different blogs and getting outfit ideas!
-Elisabeth

Nay said...

Oh. Goodness. Me. How fabulous do you look in these photos. I'm so happy you were brave to post them. You look awesome!

I don't think I've ever posted a pic of myself on my blog...oh wait, once, but I was being silly...and it was NOTHING compared to how great you look in your pics...

Slightly jeally over here:)

xo

Jason and Kate said...

I SO struggle with body image too and being a week into my postpartum body sure doesn't help either. But you look amazing! Just seeing you in those pants make me want to try to squeeze myself into them. Love the white with coral. You are beautiful!

momstheword said...

Wow, you must really be skinny because I thought you looked adorable in your outfits and you look thin to me!

I can totally relate to your post though, because I've gained about 15 pounds this last year and I need to diet it back off.

I am using something called myfitnesspal.com. It's free and keeps track of your calories for you and helps you set your weight loss goals. Have you heard of it?

jessica dukes said...

you look incredible. and im not just saying that. for real. so what if you gained a few pounds, you will loose them! we are girls...its the story of our life! either way, you look awesome. really, you do.

Kate @ Songs Kate Sang said...

I completely relate to weight struggles. Completely. You look great.

TwoThirtyFiveDesigns said...

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!!! It is all fabulous!!

I would absolutely LOVE to have you link this up on my Casual Friday link up party starting tomorrow, it would be perfect!!

Thanks!!
Allison
http://twothirtyfivedesigns.blogspot.com/

amanda said...

Love the dress, this past year I just started to wear stripes. Body image is a struggle for me, (I think all women do to some point). It keeps me in check and reminds me to be a good example to my miss 6.

Garage Sales R Us said...

Loving the spring look!I am visiting from the Pleated Poppy link up and I am following vis facebook! I hope you will stop by http://www.garagesalesrus.blogspot.com/ and do the same.

Robin

Mandy @ This Girl's Life said...

First of all, big hugs to you! I struggle a lot with my body image as well. Having twins wreaked havoc on my belly, and I'm not sure if I'll ever be comfortable with that part of my body again. It is so hard to adjust to your body after having children. And having twins pushes me to stress eat way more than I should...or maybe I'm just using them as an excuse to eat more dark chocolate. :) FWIW I think you look rally great...that target dress and leggings is adorable! And your hair looks great too! ;)